Blog: Beauty from the Inside Out

BEAUTY TIP #20 – Play the YouTube Forward

Posted: August 7, 2010

Pause, and envision the future. I own a greeting card that says, “The biggest fear in my life is that this is not just PMS but my real personality.”  Whenever I read this out in front of an audience, I hear a loud gasp and chuckle. Then a few women lower their heads-I imagine with some embarrassment. Those words probably hit a nerve a little too close to home. Women are the most exquisite, fragile, influential confusing creations on planet earth.  We have to be aware and guard those exquisite sensations and eruptions so that our life is not about one week of emotions, and three weeks of apologizing. God has given us our feelings to help us navigate through life with wisdom and power. Our feelings can be like a red flag that warns us of danger, or guides us with gut intuitions on the choices we make.  They…

Posted in: Beauty from the Inside Out, Making Wise Choices, Overcoming Stuggles

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BEAUTY TIP #19 – Unlock your Dark Side

Posted: July 30, 2010

 We all crave to be accepted and recognized for who we are. When we sense we have been overlooked, rejected, put down or devalued, I believe our dark side kicks in.  This starts when we are very young and someone gets a bigger ice cream cone or more recognition at a school play.  We ask ourselves.  ”Am I not as important or valuable as the other person? How come she/he gets more rewards or recognition?” When my children were younger and I took them to swimming lessons, they would constantly shout at me. “Look at me mommy; watch me swim. Look at how I can do the back flip.” If I got into a conversation with another woman or happened to look away, they would remind me afterwards, “Mommy, you didn’t watch me.”  As we get older and become somewhat more mature, we become better at hiding our desperate need for…

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BEAUTY TIP #16- SAY “YES” TO YUMMIE. Nine Steps to an Unbalanced Life.

Posted: June 4, 2010

  A balanced life is over-rated. Before you call me a fanatic and burn me at the TIME MANAGEMENT whiteboard; I want to ask you. “So how is time management” working for you? Over the past ten years we have been saturated with “how to” steps for managing our most precious commodity – time. It wasn’t until the day I threw my palm pilot into the garbage that I realized I had become a slave to time management. With all the time balancing, de-cluttering, workshops, fat day timers, Microsoft calendars and every piece of technology known to mankind to help us with our 24 hour days, we are still rushing, sighing and feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. A balanced life sounds like a wise, wonderful concept; but what happens when all of our best laid “one hour increments” in our day timer fall behind and we fall apart? In a question…

Posted in: Beauty from the Inside Out, Beauty through Boldness, Freedom from Busyness, Obligations and Offenses, Overwhelmed and Undervalued

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BEAUTY TIP #15 – Driving Miss Heidi

Posted: May 21, 2010

“Why would you try; you might fail and end up looking stupid.” Those words have the potential to be burned into our subconscious like a non-writeable dvd. Each morning when our feet hit the ground, the power button gets turned on and the brain kicks into action, taunting us by whispering ancient, crusted worthless lies. One thing we battle almost every day is a powerful, invisible false belief system that is steering us off course for what God designed for our life.  This false belief system is a deeply ingrained habit of seeing the world through a set of lenses that was formed by our perception and interpretation of external events and words. These influences came from our parents, neighbors, siblings, teachers and other people that were part of our day to day activities. They are false because most of them are manmade rules and perceptions and they don’t line…

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BEAUTY TIP #14 – Scorn Intimidation

Posted: April 27, 2010

Why do we talk like t his? “I could never decorate my home the way you do.” “I could never possibly walk into a room and speak to strangers.” “I could never pray like you.” I could never……….” (you fill in the blanks). With shoulders  hunched and eyes lowered, we succumb to the subtle menacing foe of intimidation. Dr. Dobson of Focus on the Family, says that the biggest struggle for women is their lack of self worth. Countless women battle intimidation-an enemy that is actually camouflaged as fear of indequacy. We cower because we are afraid that we are not enough for this world. “Surely, we say, “everyone must be smarter, prettier, more accomplished than I am.” I love the poem “Return to Love” by Marianne Williamson”… …”You are a child of God, Your playing small does not serve the World. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that…

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BEAUTY TIP #13 – Unleashing Bliss through Limbic Looping

Posted: March 18, 2010

“Limbic Looping” We all need to feel pleasure. Consciously or sub-consciously we will do whatever it takes to feel it.  If you think you are beyond pleasure seeking; read on. There is a portion of our brain that is called the “limbic system”, and it is the seat of our memory and our gorgeous emotions. It is the part of our brain that releases our pleasure chemicals. In the book Social Intelligence, the author Daniel Goleman has done intensive research on the human brain and how it responds and functions in human relationships.  This book is loaded with so much valuable information it will make your head swim; but I want to focus on one aspect-the “looping”.   We have all experienced the phenomenal delight when we smile at a baby or toddler. Here is what happens: We smile at the baby, the baby watches our faces and breaks forth…

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BEAUTY TIP #12 – Don’t Spit in the Wind

Posted: February 27, 2010

Don’t spit in the wind. Living in Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada is a windy proposition. I don’t know how many times my coat got caught in my car door, or the wind knocked me sideways while I was carrying bags of groceries. The trees along the Court House stand at an angle, and it is crucial that you have a hairdo that easily flows backwards. Those struggles are not much fun, and although I loved living in Lethbridge for thirteen years; I never got used to the wind storms. After the third fierce windy day, employees in our office would start to gnarl at each other, and I was told that by the third day of a full force wind storm, the psychiatric wards were full. There is something mean about a wind that whips at your relentlessly and endlessly. So I developed a new Heidi’sm. When something seemed futile or…

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BEAUTY TIP #11-“Don’t be so mean!

Posted: February 8, 2010

I know we all want to be nice so that people will like us.  Sadly, there are days when our feet hit the floor and we can’t wait to rip someone’s head off and let them know, “they made you so mad!” What makes us mean? I believe that many people are mean because they have been hurt, or use it for power to control people and events.  They feel threatened or are too afraid to stand up for themselves and it makes them angry and resentful. Then they become mean. Lynne Hybels is the author of Nice Girls Don’t Change the World, and she became mean to herself by bottling up her pain. Lynne was so nice that she tried to become everything to her husband, children, her church and whatever else the world wanted her to be. As a matter of fat, she was so nice that it made…

Posted in: Beauty from the Inside Out, Expectations, Resentment

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Beauty Tip #10 – “Find your own Broom Tree”

Posted: December 21, 2009

  Your very own “Broom Tree” Once your “Merry Christmas Train” has arrived at the designated station, been unpacked, untangled, re-organized and cleaned up; it’s time to start looking around for your very own broom tree.  You deserve it; and it guarantees to bring the sparkle back into your eyes. When I see the furrowed brows on women’s faces during the harried Christmas Season, I often wonder if some of us feel like Elijah. Elijah, a prophet in the Bible, had been working very hard for God. He had been busy performing miracles, winning wars, overcoming relationship struggles and being obedient to what was expected of him. (Does any of this resonate?) Now he was worn out, hungry, feeling overlooked, and a tad depressed. He felt depleted and done. I can visualize him sighing deeply and then flopping under the nearest broom tree.  I wonder if he was muttering like some…

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Beauty Tip #9 -“How do you Row Your Boat?”

Posted: November 8, 2009

“‘I’m Pulling in My Paddles and Floating Down stream.” A young, tired woman came to me for and asked for some wisdom. I responded by singing to her this nursery rhyme. Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream, Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream. Her mouth fell open and I quickly went on to explain my versionof this simple little song. I gave her the, “no smarter than a third grader” advice and told her it had  to do with one ugly word – should. When women hear the word should , it has almost the same effect as saying “sic’um” to a dog. Immediately we feel the heavy responsibility of what we should do. Then it evokes our subconscious to respond by feeling obligated – not invigorated. It is as though we are struggling, using excess energy  to paddle our boat UP the stream. Absolutely…

Posted in: Beauty from the Inside Out, Obligations and Offenses

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