Blog: Obligations and Offenses


Posted: November 22, 2011

“What comes out of you when life squeezes you?” I think about that quite a bit actually, because I’ve had a bit of “squeezing” going on in my life. No matter how I act, or “fake it until I make it”…when life squeezes me, the REAL ME SHOWS UP! It’s not always pretty, but it is the truth. How does this reality affect your marriage; because life can be tough. ©       You find out a child has an addiction. ©       The balance in the bank account is so much lower than you anticipated. ©       You find out your spouse had an affair, or a friend deceived you. ©       Your career change is so much harder than anticipated. ©       Your spouse will not take on spiritual leadership. ©       You found pornographic sites on your spouse’s computer. ©       Some you love-dies. ©       You lost your job. ©       You got a life threatening…

Posted in: Balancing life, Beauty from the Inside Out, Beauty through Boldness, Communication, Encouragement, Expectations, Fear, Finding Truth, Forgiveness, Freedom, Friendship, Good Marriage, Intimacy, Kindness, Life of Jesus, Making Wise Choices, Obligations and Offenses, Overcoming Struggles, Pain Pleasure, Resentment, Respect, Tension, Uncategorized, Understanding each other

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BEAUTY TIP #16- SAY “YES” TO YUMMIE. Nine Steps to an Unbalanced Life.

Posted: June 4, 2010

  A balanced life is over-rated. Before you call me a fanatic and burn me at the TIME MANAGEMENT whiteboard; I want to ask you. “So how is time management” working for you? Over the past ten years we have been saturated with “how to” steps for managing our most precious commodity – time. It wasn’t until the day I threw my palm pilot into the garbage that I realized I had become a slave to time management. With all the time balancing, de-cluttering, workshops, fat day timers, Microsoft calendars and every piece of technology known to mankind to help us with our 24 hour days, we are still rushing, sighing and feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. A balanced life sounds like a wise, wonderful concept; but what happens when all of our best laid “one hour increments” in our day timer fall behind and we fall apart? In a question…

Posted in: Beauty from the Inside Out, Beauty through Boldness, Freedom from Busyness, Obligations and Offenses, Overwhelmed and Undervalued

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Beauty Tip #9 -“How do you Row Your Boat?”

Posted: November 8, 2009

“‘I’m Pulling in My Paddles and Floating Down stream.” A young, tired woman came to me for and asked for some wisdom. I responded by singing to her this nursery rhyme. Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream, Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream. Her mouth fell open and I quickly went on to explain my versionof this simple little song. I gave her the, “no smarter than a third grader” advice and told her it had  to do with one ugly word – should. When women hear the word should , it has almost the same effect as saying “sic’um” to a dog. Immediately we feel the heavy responsibility of what we should do. Then it evokes our subconscious to respond by feeling obligated – not invigorated. It is as though we are struggling, using excess energy  to paddle our boat UP the stream. Absolutely…

Posted in: Beauty from the Inside Out, Obligations and Offenses

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BEAUTY TIP #7 “Exfoliating Frogs – Part 2”

Posted: September 23, 2009

                          FREEDOM FROM FROGS Noticed any frogs in your house in the last week? Its time to exfoliate, today, not tomorrow,  and it takes only one word –GRACE. It always amazes me how we are so willing to accept the grace of forgiveness for our sins and promise of an eternal heaven, but we don’t let grace help us with our frogs. Let me explain. Many of us have lived with frogs for so long we think they are part of our life. Either we feel that “it is my lot in life to live with frogs”, OR we blame other people or life’s circumstances. If only, my parents hadn’t done this to me, I wouldn’t be like this. If only people didn’t have so many expectations of me. If only I had more money. If only I didn’t have to work so hard. If only my husband and children helped…

Posted in: Freedom from Busyness, Obligations and Offenses

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