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You Loved Him Enough to Marry Him

Posted: November 11, 2016

12-keys-for-marriage-successHe’s my hunk, tall, dark and handsome, the man I dreamed about marrying. Your guy may be blond and blue eyed; rugged and strong; funny and outgoing, or intelligent and quiet. Yet we all found qualities we loved in the guy we chose to marry. He’s our hunk; the man we thought was the perfect fit for us.

Then the lovey-dovey feeling we had when we first got married wears off. This happens around six months to two years after our weddings. Then we must make choice; will we learn to love our spouses even when we don’t feel like it, or do we give up in defeat? I chose to stay in love with my husband, appreciate his good characteristics, and pray about the rest. Staying in love is a decision of the mind and heart; it’s as commitment to God and each.

The Elevator Woman

House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14 (AM)

None of us want our guys to pay undue attention when the woman on the elevator says, “My, you look strong.” Nor do we want our men to respond when the girl at the office flirts while complimenting his work.

If we’ve ignored our spouses or gave them the cold shoulder they have a tendency to be more susceptible to the other woman’s comments. We have the responsibility to tell our guys how much we like their great work ethic, big smile, strong arms, and deep voice, or whatever you admire. Then they lose the desire or need to seek approval from the elevator woman or the office girl.

Admire Your Hunk

You are so handsome, my love, pleasing beyond words!

Song of Songs 1:16 NLT

Our men want to hear that we respect their unique abilities, manly features, and talents. Tell your husband about the excellent qualities he possesses in this stage of his life. Praise his many accomplishments through the years and thank him for his continued love for you.

We might say “I love the color of your eyes and how they sparkle when you smile.” We could touch his bicep and say “I like your strong muscles,” or give him a big smile of encouragement when we see him read or play with the children. Then say “Thanks honey for washing the dishes” and let him know you are thankful he thought enough about you to help.

When we encourage our guys, and compliment them, we let them know how valuable they are to us. Focus on the positives, the good, pleasant, and wonderful aspects of your man. Then you will see even more talents and abilities to appreciate while your love continues to grow. When we make it a daily habit to tell our husbands what we like about them, we build their self-esteem and our love for them will increase.


Joyce Zook is the author of the award-winning book 12 Keys for Marriage Success, and Priorities for Life and God and Your Closet. She is an international speaker and a life and marriage coach. She reaches women by phone, video conferences, and online courses to provide world wide access. Joyce and her husband live by the lake in Texas.

Contact her at www.PracticalChristianWoman.com and like us and get daily inspiration at https://www.Facebook.com/JoyceZook.

Posted in: Commitment, companionship, Encouragement, Friendship, Good Marriage, Harmony, love, Respect

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