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THE K.I.S.S. MARRIAGE – A Place of Refuge

Posted: December 20, 2014

Jack & Heidi on steps

The world can be a harsh place these days. Take a few minutes to browse the CNN news and I know when you walk away your heart will be wrecked and sad. There is so much anger and hatred in our world, yet I know that we all long for a place of beauty, safety and comfort.  Besides the local spa I am not sure how many other places you will find this refuge.  So it has to be our marriages and our homes.

This last year has been an extremely challenging year in my workplace and grieving the loss of my mother. Not to mention the day to day struggles that all of us encounter.  Yet I am so blessed to be able to walk through our door each evening and run into my husband Jack’s arms. He is a safe place of refuge by listening to my rambling, refocusing my thinking and validating my feelings. We all need this in our marriages and if it is not happening, right now during this Christmas season is the best place to start.

The bible tells us that: “God is our refuge and our strength, an ever present help in times of trouble” (Psalm 46:1). Yes we need God to strengthen our spirits but we also need human arms and voices to help us set our minds and refocus our distorted thinking.  We need this reassurance and strength in our husbands, and our husbands need this from us.  If you have children living at home they need you more than ever.  I can’t imagine how confusing and troubling our children find this demanding world. They need to know that when they come into their homes, they will be loved and accepted just for who they are.  Every one of us needs this.

So forget about spending thousands of dollars on the latest technology or the perfect Christmas present this year. I just wrote my husband a Christmas letter and thanked him for being my place of refuge during this last year. Why not write this kind of letter to your spouse. Better yet, why not make a determined choice and effort to make your home a place of refuge. A place of love, harmony, acceptance and validation.  If we don’t do this for our families, they will find other places to give them the comfort and love that we all so desperately crave.

We can all make this the best Christmas ever by creating our homes to be a haven of peace and harmony.  There is nothing greater.




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